After her first date with Shawn Patrick Lamb in January 2019, Jarrold Jenn-yu Wong started to cry. “It was the first time I felt like I could love myself unconditionally for who I am,” she said.
Dating had never brought him much joy. “It wasn’t for lack of trying,” said Mr. Wong, known to friends as Jay, “but there is a lot of racism against Asians in the gay community, and after some disappointment, I decided to focus on my career and self-love.”
Mr. Lamb shared his apprehension.
“I had a great job, great friends and a great family, but I was skeptical about romance,” she said. Lamb, 33, said. Having endured a handful of bad relationships, I was almost certain that Mr. Right wouldn’t show up anytime soon, if ever.
They were both on Tinder and matched in December 2018. Their playful text banter led to a first date at a bar in Denver, where they lived. Anxiety quickly gave way to ease, and after several drinks, Mr. Lamb broke his “no dinner on the first date” rule and suggested they move to Bar Dough for his favorite pizza.
The hours of conversation included topics normally off limits on a first date: They both said they want children. They also learned that they had grown up in close and supportive families, Mr. Lamb in Springfield, Pennsylvania, and Mr. Wong in San Francisco. Both groups of parents had been active in PFLAG, a support group for parents of LGBTQ children, which had played an important role in accepting their children’s sexual orientations.
Afterwards, the two had a lingering goodbye although they didn’t kiss. That’s when Mr. Wong became emotional as he walked home.
Mr. The lamb felt the same way. “I had been on so many one-sided dates where I had brought enthusiasm,” he said. “This was completely different.”
The next night they met again, and a kiss sealed the night. A few months later, in St. Patrick’s Day, Mr. Lamb, wearing a neon green and white striped jumpsuit and fluorescent green false eyelashes, uttered the first “I love you.” Mr. Surprised, Wong echoed the sentiment eagerly. By 2020, the two had moved to Denver together.
Mr. Lamb graduated from the University of Scranton in Pennsylvania with a bachelor’s degree in business administration and holds a master’s degree in higher education administration from Canisius College in Buffalo, NY. He now works with Deloitte Canada in Toronto, where he is the Director of Campus Recruiting.
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After graduating from Columbia University with a double major in economics and East Asian languages and cultures, Mr. Wong attended the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and earned a dual degree in management and marketing. He is now executive vice president of Denver-based Exclusive Resorts.
A year after living together, under the guise of a business trip, Mr. Wong made a secret trip to Mr. Lamb’s hometown of Springfield to ask for his parents’ blessing.
Just before sunset on March 29, 2021, under the guise of taking Mr. Lamb to a surprise dinner, Mr. Wong blindfolded Mr. Lamb before a driver took them to a pavilion by the sea where Mr. To Lamb’s surprise, he was greeted by his younger sister Maggie Lamb, Mr. Wong’s younger sister, Reese Wong, and two close friends who had secretly flown in that day. On his knees, Mr. Wong proposed to a Mr. Lamb she enthusiastically accepted before her sisters draped them in floral leis.
Later that year, the couple bought a house in Toronto, where Mr. Wong had lived in Denver before moving. They now split their time between Toronto and Denver.
In December On the 3rd, after a rain storm cleared for their late afternoon ceremony, the couple tied the knot in an outdoor ceremony in front of 129 guests at the Lanikuhonua Cultural Institute in Kapolei, Hawaii on the island of Oahu. Jessy O’Neill, Mr. Lamb’s best friend, who became a Universal Life minister for the event, officiated. The men wore custom tuxedos with Louboutin shoes, the smooth red soles of which were destroyed after walking on a coral path.
“With the fateful snap of a finger, Jay walked into my life at the perfect time and made everything about life exponentially better,” said Mr. Lamb in his vows, before promising to be an “amazing father to our children” and letting Mr. Wong “be the DJ in the car and choose the wine.”
In his votes, Mr. Wong cited the many things he loved about his partner, including his spontaneity and determination before promising to listen, being the couple’s travel planner and, as often as he could remember, chewing with his mouth closed. “I couldn’t be more grateful for the life we’ve built together,” he said. “A life better than any rom-com.”